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    • Why During the Holiday Season?

    March 29th, 2010 by RLove.us Admin

    Why during the holidays people often visit family or in-laws (even if they encounter people they don’t like) and when the holidays are over, they come back and often complain about the people they don’t like? They say the holidays were terrible! Why don’t people just avoid going to gatherings during the holidays so they don’t have to encounter these people?
    I realize people do this so they don’t have to spend the holidays alone. There’s always need of volunteers in homeless shelters, soup kitchens, and orphanages during the holidays so people don’t have to be spend it alone. This is much more fulfilling.

    This entry was posted on Monday, March 29th, 2010 at 8:44 am and is filed under RLOVE.US Volunteer Mission News + Topics. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. Both comments and pings are currently closed.

    • Annette B

      I suppose that it’s a way of saying we are family! Other than that I feel the same way that you do!
      If I don’t bother with people all year I don’t bother with them during the Holiday Season either, I figure if we are alone all year and menage, why should we feel any different at Christmas time or any other time . When we have no one we need to face reality and adjust to the facts.

    • jim

      Because the Holidays mean different things to different families. For some, it IS the time to reunite with family; be it voluntarily or obligation. Part of that it is, yes, being mature and tolerating family members/friends that one doesn’t particularly like. These people frankly need to focus on why they visit; to reunite with loved ones.
      Avoidance doesn’t help; emotional maturity does. Tell these folks to get over themselves.

    • Holly

      I understand what you are saying, and did start to stay home so I didn’t have to spend my holiday listening to my sister gripe all day and abuse her son and husband. I took 2 years off, in fact, and feel much better. In fact, I just started talking to her again, and it is fun to get together. She is behaving better now.

      Yes, people are in control of their own lives, and if things get out of hand, you can always be the odd man out and save your sanity.

    • Tmo

      I heard a quote once that said, “you can choose your friends, but you can’t choose your family. ” So true. Families are really just a bunch of incompatible people brought together by circumstance. I’m fortunate that my family is awesome and the holidays are my favorite time of year. But, my husband’s family is another story altogether. It’s definitely much more of a chore.